Five ways to reduce peer pressure
So what is peer pressure?
We have a lot of control over our children when they are young, but as they get older peer pressure can take over especially when they start listening to their peers and are influenced by their tastes, the possessions they have etc.
It can be difficult to keep track of what they are doing at all times and what they are tuning in to. As parents we need to do some preventative work so they take on board who and what we stand for as well as getting them to think about who they are too.
Listed below is five simple ways that you can remain a good influence over the decisions and choices your children make.
1. Reinforce your family values.
Children like to be part of something - feel like they belong. Make your child feel like they are part of your family group and you will be able to build strong family values. Be a bit clique and say to them, We, (family name) like to….’
2. Talk to your children about the world.
Share your thoughts and feelings on what is going on inside and outside of the home. They will hopefully value your thoughts and take on board what is important to you.
3. Build up their self-esteem.
Work on your child’s self-esteem, as children who have low self-esteem generally join cliques to feel good about themselves and fit in’. Praise and encourage them. Let them know you’re proud of them and that you love them.
4. Let them share their problems.
If you can, have an open door policy where your child can come to you with their problems. Discuss any problems they have and get them to think for themselves how they would solve them. Tell them that solving problems is very individual and that they have to choose the right one for them.
5. Inform them of your values.
Children need to be aware that each family has a different set of values (money, materials, etc) and there are behaviours and attitudes that are acceptable in some families and not in others. Explain to them what these are in your household and the reason why you uphold these values.
If you work on these five simple tactics hopefully your children will be able to resist temptations and say No’ to things they know they should not be doing.
This article was written by Naomi Richards The Kids Coach coaching children for positive change.